Losing someone you love can be devastating and can affect people in different ways. Grief is a natural response to losing someone you love. You may experience many different emotions and feel like it will never let up, but over time you will be able to move on.
There is no particular right way or wrong way to grieve, we are all different. The more significant the loss though, the more intense the grief will be. If you lose a partner then the loss will be felt more, it will affect your everyday life a lot more than someone losing a distant relative.
Experts believe there are four stages of bereavement:
1 The acceptance that your loss is real.
2 Actually experiencing the pain of grief.
3 The adjustment of living life without that person.
4 Moving on and putting less emotional energy into grieving for that person.
When someone dies generally the first feeling is of shock and numbness. Then comes the overwhelming feeling of sadness which could include lots of crying. Many people feel anger and guilt which can be quite hard to deal with. Some people get many negative feelings which are quite normal. Remember it wasn’t your fault, these things happen to everyone at some point in their lives.
Each and every bereavement is unique and personal to that person. There is no general rule for how long the grieving will last, for some people it might be a couple of months, for others it might be a lot more. This is normal and nothing to worry about.
If you feel you or someone you love is not coping well it might be an idea to suggest they seek a bereavement counsellor, you can ask your doctor to put you in touch with someone. The Cruse Bereavement Care is the leading bereavement charity in the UK with over 100 branches.
Signs that a person needs extra help to coping with bereavement:
These feelings are fine for a short time but if you feel the person isn’t moving on and family and friends are worried, this is the time to see a GP and get some extra help.
Many people find comfort in making arrangements for a funeral. It will be a daunting time but it can help with grieving. You might like to arrange an upbeat “happy” funeral rather than a somber type one.
Perhaps the funeral is long gone but you are still struggling. If so, then perhaps having a positive memorial placard somewhere could help. You could then go to this spot and spend time remembering the happy times you had together. If you have come to our site looking for ideas then take a look at some of our commemorative benches. If you want to design your own bespoke memorial bench, we can accommodate. We will work closely with you to design and make one off memorial benches in any style from contemporary to traditional and one that fits in with any garden or environment.